The truth will set you free, but first it will piss you off
- Gloria Steinem
Most of us claim to be committed to our goals, but if we were to be really honest with ourselves, we would probably admit that not all or our behaviour is in line with our goals. Making changes to our behaviour can be difficult. After all, if it was easy we would have done it by now. Usually, there is a gap between what we say we want and what and what we are actually doing to bridge that gap. Sometimes, parts of us are in conflict. For instance, perhaps you want to lose weight, but you find it difficult to make time to work out and plan meals. Yes, you want to get out of debt, but it feels good to buy new things. Yes, you want less conflict in your relationship, but you also want your partner to see things “your” way. Those moments when we feel most entitled to seeking comfort in old ways, are ripe opportunities for us to create the change we truly desire. When you find yourself in conflict, ask yourself, what do I want in this situation? Is my behaviour in line with my long term best interest? If not, ask again. What do I really want in this situation? True emotional maturity is acting in your long term best interest, when it is easy, and when it is not.